Raising Multiracial/Biracial Children
Raising biracial children to feel whole on this Earth is no easy task. The fact of the matter is, there is still plenty of intolerance in this world, pressuring them to check a box. Insanely ugly people that judge others based on skin color. When you judge me, do so according to my character; what I’ve said and done, or how I’ve made you feel. Not because I’m Latino, and my husband African American. I’m not perfect, but my skin color has little bearing on that.
Until our world is the utopia I wish for my multiracial children, I lean heavily on my favorite MLK quotes. Not just today, as we celebrate his remarkable life, but everyday as I raise my beautiful brown babies to be strong, gentle and compassionate human beings.
MLK Quotes to Raise Your Kids By
Choosing love over hate is not a selfless act. Allowing your body to accept, understand and love, removes the energy it takes to resist, combat and hate. Hate takes so much out of you, and certainly I believe that focus can be better capitalized elsewhere in your life. My kids are taught to love those around of us, and accept them on their ground. We focus on us, our family, our kids. I don’t have time to waste on hating anyone.
But the truth remains, the MLK quotes in this post resonate within me because there are still plenty of people out there that will hate. They will hate my family because of the color of our skin. And sometimes, as a parent who yearns for better, all I can do is dream. But….
Self worth. Self awareness. Self esteem. Even at the risk of arrogance, I will absolutely instill in my children their power of self. I have no worries that the world will try to convince them otherwise, so as long as they are in this house, abiding by rules and boundaries set by their loving parents, my kids will grow up knowing that they are the best thing since sliced bread. A man can’t ride your back unless you let him, or unless your mama didn’t tell you any better.
Alina and Sebastian,
Your father and I will give you all the tools you need to live a happy, productive life. Love, a foundation of education, attention on your thoughts and encouragement to pursue your dreams. But, ultimately, your happiness and character is yours alone. Life will not always be comfortable. In fact, I hope it isn’t. Moments of struggle are when phenomenal growth occurs. When I close my eyes and think of you as adults, I see your characters and righteousness. I don’t see success or titles. Be happy. Be loving. Be you, always.
Te quiero tanto.