Motherhood & Death: Love Transcends Human Nature

Motherhood & Death: Love Transcends Human Nature

Motherhood is a crazy thing, isn't it? One minute you're you, and the next minute, you're... well, someone else. In those first moments of motherhood, everything about a women's story is altered. It starts anew. With the birth of her child, she is reborn into all the possibilities of what could be. Of what should be. There is hope and love and beauty in all that once held none. But, for me, the ultimate transformation of motherhood occurred after the birth story. Weeks after bringing home baby. Always choose life, until you become a mom I love life. Despite traumas or disasters, I choose … [Read more...]

Personal Identity Project: Mother to Men

Personal Identity Project: Mother to Men

Could I love A Man? This Personal Identity Project post has been brewing within me for a long time, and with my son's first birthday only a few days away, I felt like the time was right to explore the question: could I love and nurture and raise a boy to be the type of man that I respect? If you asked me a year and a half ago, I would have said no. Because of so many reasons, I didn't think that skill set was in me. A year and a half ago, I was pregnant with our second child and unknowing of the gender. All we ever wanted was a healthy child, and thank the Lord above we are blessed with … [Read more...]

When Losing Your Breast Milk Means Losing Your Identity

When Losing Your Breast Milk Means Losing Your Identity

Recently, I made the decision to leave my babies with their Dad for a weekend. I was fully sponsored to attend an amazing conference, and thought that I couldn't "pass up the opportunity". I've also been told repeatably, and consequently believed, that I "deserved a break". In hindsight, I have learned that once you become a mother, there is no such thing as a "break". At least for me personally, at this particular point in my life, there is always a part of me that remains a mother, regardless of where I may be. Up to that weekend, the only other time I had left Alina overnight was to give … [Read more...]

A Spanglish Baby All Grown Up: My Chronicles Of Language Immersion

A Spanglish Baby All Grown Up: My Chronicles Of Language Immersion

After tweeting about Alina's summer reading program on Twitter, a reader asked me if I was teaching Alina to speak Spanish. I was surprised I had not expressed this part of our family heritage before. Not only do I expose Alina to my family's native tongue, but I chronicle our journey as a contributor at SpanglishBaby. I'm not sure why I don't discuss that very often on this blog. The SpanglishBaby community has been amazing to me, and I encourage anyone considering the introduction of a second language to head over and say hello, or hola... Family Heritage and Language Immersion This is … [Read more...]

Personal Identity Post: Mother FIRST, All Else…

Personal Identity Post: Mother FIRST, All Else…

I am very excited about this guest post from Jennifer of Hybrid Rasta Mama, and the perspective she shares with us today. The question of who you are first, or most, at your core is one that I ponder often. Am I mother first? Wife second? Who holds rank above the other? Is it okay to let your personal identity be consumed with motherhood? Being a product of divorce, two times over, I always swore my husband would come first. My mindset resting in the premise that my children would ultimately benefit from putting the security of my marriage before my identity as a mother. Except … [Read more...]

Personal Identity Project: Your Name, Your Brand

Personal Identity Project: Your Name, Your Brand

How does your NAME impact your PERSONAL IDENTITY? Whether you like it or not, your moniker impacts your personal identity. Your name announces to the world who you are, aspire to be and can certainly affect much of your life. Often times even before you are born, the world has come to know and judge you solely by the name given to you. A set of values and expectations, hopes and wants, set firmly on your unborn shoulders by the weight of the letters that encompass your name; your brand. Is there any wonder why parents agonize over the decision of what to name their children? Daddy D and I … [Read more...]