A Summer of Inspired Care: LATISM Recap

A Summer of Inspired Care: LATISM Recap

Mil Gracias Johnsons & Johnsons! When I started this blog almost three years ago, I had no idea all that would come from it. Other than a personal friend's, I didn't even read blogs. A year in, I reached out to SpanglishBaby, wrote  my debut post, was asked to become a regular contributor, became friends with the ever supportive founders and realized that I could actually take De Su Mama to a level I never knew existed. I wrote this post, Thinking and Writing, about publishing my first freelance article and the enormity it had on my personal identity. By freelance, I mean paid. And by … [Read more...]

Can You Survive An Interracial Marriage?

Can You Survive An Interracial Marriage?

Celebrating Our Interracial Wedding Story After being told by her daughter that she wanted mixed babies because they're the cutest (insert sigh), a friend of mine asked me what I thought about being in an interracial marriage. Specifically, she wanted to know how I would advise her daughter should she one day marry a black guy. I was a little taken aback, but the truth is this isn't the first time I'm confronted with this kind of question. I used to coach a high school soccer team at a local private school. One of my players came rushing up to me before practice to express how angry she … [Read more...]

Personal Identity Project: Mother Martyr

Personal Identity Project: Mother Martyr

Mother Martyr Syndrome Becoming a mom has transformed my personal identity. In ways I never expected, giving birth to Alina has given birth to who I want to become. I committed an unimaginable amount of time and energy to Alina's upbringing. Whether for her physical development or the strengthening of our bond, everything about my personal identity was about her identity. I started this blog for her - to document our family legacy and create a place of personal identity for her to lean on. As the blog has grown, so has my love for it and this mission. And as the blog created more of a work … [Read more...]

Motherhood & Death: Love Transcends Human Nature

Motherhood & Death: Love Transcends Human Nature

Motherhood is a crazy thing, isn't it? One minute you're you, and the next minute, you're... well, someone else. In those first moments of motherhood, everything about a women's story is altered. It starts anew. With the birth of her child, she is reborn into all the possibilities of what could be. Of what should be. There is hope and love and beauty in all that once held none. But, for me, the ultimate transformation of motherhood occurred after the birth story. Weeks after bringing home baby. Always choose life, until you become a mom I love life. Despite traumas or disasters, I choose … [Read more...]

Personal Identity Project: Mother to Men

Personal Identity Project: Mother to Men

Could I love A Man? This Personal Identity Project post has been brewing within me for a long time, and with my son's first birthday only a few days away, I felt like the time was right to explore the question: could I love and nurture and raise a boy to be the type of man that I respect? If you asked me a year and a half ago, I would have said no. Because of so many reasons, I didn't think that skill set was in me. A year and a half ago, I was pregnant with our second child and unknowing of the gender. All we ever wanted was a healthy child, and thank the Lord above we are blessed with … [Read more...]

When Losing Your Breast Milk Means Losing Your Identity

When Losing Your Breast Milk Means Losing Your Identity

Recently, I made the decision to leave my babies with their Dad for a weekend. I was fully sponsored to attend an amazing conference, and thought that I couldn't "pass up the opportunity". I've also been told repeatably, and consequently believed, that I "deserved a break". In hindsight, I have learned that once you become a mother, there is no such thing as a "break". At least for me personally, at this particular point in my life, there is always a part of me that remains a mother, regardless of where I may be. Up to that weekend, the only other time I had left Alina overnight was to give … [Read more...]

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