Q is for Cuban: My 3 Year Old’s Biracial Identity

Q is for Cuban: My 3 Year Old’s Biracial Identity

Biracial, Multi-cultural, Cuban, Black, American My motherhood has matured a lot in three years. I am strong enough to now say that I was really afraid to have mixed kids, to raise a biracial identity, and for reasons you might be shocked to learn. When you are in an interracial marriage, people think you somehow become an advocate for equality or civil rights - that your marriage symbolizes a quest for "one love". Or something like that. Actually, I married the guy that treated me better (way better) than any other guy I dated. I married him for probably the same reasons you married your … [Read more...]

 

Can You Survive An Interracial Marriage?

Can You Survive An Interracial Marriage?

Celebrating Our Interracial Wedding Story After being told by her daughter that she wanted mixed babies because they're the cutest (insert sigh), a friend of mine asked me what I thought about being in an interracial marriage. Specifically, she wanted to know how I would advise her daughter should she one day marry a black guy. I was a little taken aback, but the truth is this isn't the first time I'm confronted with this kind of question. I used to coach a high school soccer team at a local private school. One of my players came rushing up to me before practice to express how angry she … [Read more...]

 

Lessons To Learn When Parenting A Black Boy, From a Brown Mom

Lessons To Learn When Parenting A Black Boy, From a Brown Mom

It has become painfully clear to me that, had I continued to parent my boy like he wasn't a black kid, I would be doing a massive disservice to his life's preparation. After my editor and friend over at SpanglishBaby asked me to voice an opinion on the Zimmerman case from a Latina mom's perspective, after I wrote My Blinders Are Off: What Trayvon Taught Me About Parenting, after HLN's Raising America picked up the piece and featured it on their homepage, I am still sickened at what I have to tell my child in order to keep him safe. Being black and staying alive are all of a sudden parts of my … [Read more...]

 

Dangerous Black Boys: A Father’s View of the Martin Case

Dangerous Black Boys: A Father’s View of the Martin Case

I have to admit, when I found out our second child would be a boy, certain fears fell heavy on my shoulders. I can understand many things, but being a black man in this country is not an experience I will even pretend to fully appreciate. For this alone, I am grateful the man I love is also a strong black father to our children. In him, they can trust. The case of Trayvon Martin's killer is coming to a close, and although I couldn't write on the topic, I asked DSM Contributor and Dad Therapist to weigh in. I will say though, my heart hurts for Trayvon's family. I wonder how the world will … [Read more...]

 

Lifetime’s Devious Maids: Likes, Dislikes and Loves

Lifetime’s Devious Maids: Likes, Dislikes and Loves

Reviewing Lifetime's Devious Maids There has been a lot of talk on the social media streets about Lifetime's new show Devious Maids, and I was lucky enough catch that first episode before it airs on June 23rd. Lifetime is sponsoring this post to hear what regular Latinas think of the first episode, as well as to get the word out to De Su Mama readers about the show's premiere. Devious Maids Deceives My Expectations Devious Maids is a big deal. Never in history has this many Latina actors been featured as main characters on English television. While not new for telenovela viewers, … [Read more...]

 

5 Favorite Black Dads on Television and Movies

5 Favorite Black Dads on Television and Movies

How does the media portray black dads? Whether we like it or not, the media has a significant amount of influence on our beliefs and ideas about people. The images of black men tend to be degrading, stigmatizing, and plain racist. Black dads are usually non-existent or portrayed as being irresponsible or abusive. Below is a list of my favorite black fathers on television and in movies. These characters represent positive images of black dads that are rarely promoted by mainstream media. All of them have qualities of real-life, everyday men, but are magnified by exceptional actors, who are … [Read more...]

 

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